“A Letter to my Middle School Self” by Abby Weiss, LiveGirl Mentor (Graduating Senior, New Canaan High School)
Dear Middle School Abby,
At this point, you’re imagining senior year Abby as a total Boss. She is so much cooler and smarter than you. She has gone through a major weight loss, grown, and is going to her first choice school. She’s a social butterfly who crushed high school. Mainly, you hope that she is everything you are not.
I am a better version of you, but not in the way you expect. I’m not a boss, yet I am more confident than I’ve ever been. I am not cool or popular, but I am kind to people and have the best friends in the entire world. Yes, I am heavier, but I’m also healthier and stronger than I’ve ever been. I did not crush high school, rather, high school almost crushed me with piles of work. But, I have learned a lot from these four years that I want you to keep in mind.
High school is not the end, it’s the beginning. People tend to go through high school stressing about every decision. Those people really need to calm down. People tend to hype up high school way too much. This part of your life does not decide how the rest of your life is going to be. You’d be surprised how much of what you do doesn’t affect college. You’re all going to be successful in life. It’s a race to nowhere, so don’t tire yourself out.
College is going to be the number one priority throughout high school which is really disappointing because you don’t put that much effort into making high school enjoyable. Everyone’s going to be stressing around you and doing everything for college. Honestly, having gone through it at least half of it is not worth it. If you don’t like something, don’t do it. College is an overrated reason. All those times you spend looking up acceptance rates in the library during freshman year, questioning whether you should have applied to a school, or most of all regretting not doing enough. It’s all not worth your time. Devote your time to doing things out of the box, challenge yourself. Don’t devote it to studying because if you’re like me and at a point in high school where you have a test almost every day, you start to realize how much each assignment really doesn’t matter. Stop crying over tests, it won’t affect you.
Instead, devote your time to making memories for yourself. Get involved in school events such as sports games or make crazy plans with your friends. Manage your time, so that you have something to look forward to at the end of the week. You’re going to feel bad about having fun, but you shouldn’t. Most of my memories from high school consist of when I did things I’ve never done before and tested my limits. You won’t be experienced enough to take on the world if you just spend it sitting at your desk caring about how many A’s you can get in a row.
Your social life will get a lot better. People are straight up horrible in middle school. Everyone cares about social status and is willing to sacrifice any friendship in order to be cool. Be friendly in high school and spend time with people who make you happy because, in the end, no one cares about the social spectrum to a certain extent. If high school has taught me one thing is to know who your true friends are. What matters is how much you can be yourself around them and overall how they treat you. Never worry about social status.
Even at the end of my high school career I still realize that I have a lot to learn. The best way to go through life is to accept the fact that you don’t know everything. In high school, you’re going to find out what you like learning in and that’s the best part really about it. In terms of how much you need to know about life, high school is only the beginning. Do not stress about it.
Graduating Senior Abby